Society and You

What do you think society has taught you to think about yourself? I recently have experienced something of an awakening in regards to that myself.

A few weeks ago I decided to wax my legs. My hubby would be annoyed at me telling this story because he got informed about my growth daily haha. And for those of you who know you need to grow out your hair to be able to pull it out.

So I started growing it out on the 5th of March. The 5-8 were SO HARD! I have that dark, coarse hair that grows extremely fast. So, it was an itchy first three days for me as the hair initially grew out.

My wax came on the 11th of March. So I had just under a week’s worth of growth on my legs and underarms. I was strangely proud of my hair growth and if I had decided to do this earlier in the winter, I may have left it to grow a little longer. But it is warming up here in Georgia and I do enjoy a nice soft leg.

As my journey unfolded, I had a lot of internal struggle with the feeling of the hair growing on my legs and underarms. First let me say that I am 33 years old. I began shaving when I was 13. So that’s 20 years of shaving every few days and I never really had a break longer than 4 days, even after my son was born.

Second I used to associate the feeling of hair growth with being dirty. Now I know that hair is completely natural and it’s healthy and everything. Society has trained me to believe that because a woman has “extra” hair on her body that she is dirty.

So my internal struggle with not shaving was changing that narrative in my own mind. It was extremely hard to do (for me) because every other day I shower or bathe. And on the days I would shower I would shave my legs and underarms.

I saved so much time and energy by not shaving in the shower those days! So freeing! But I did attempt to wax my calves the day the wax came because that was my end goal. I got most of the hair gone and it feels so nice to have that smooth skin without shaving every other day.

That being said, it took me a long time and I decided to make an appointment to get waxed in May. My takeaway from this experience is huge. I appreciate my body in a whole new way than before. I understand that being hairy does not equate being a dirty person. I appreciate my underarm hair growing back slower than before as well haha.

The moral of the story is when you do something against the grain of society, you have to walk yourself through it internally. Because I have spent 20 years of my life shaving every other day, it took a lot for me to let go of the societal norms and accept myself as I am.

And go for it! It was a fun experience and it has changed the way I shower and shave (until May at least!) and I wouldn’t change it at all.


Published by Empowered Mama Coach

Hi, I'm Valerie! I am a Postpartum Empowerment Coach here to help guide you through the new journey of motherhood! Here I will share what I have learned, give tips on how to be more present in life and show you that you can stop sleepwalking through your life and start living it!

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