The Weight of the World

Does it feel like you have the weight of the entire world on your shoulders? It feels like there is so much negative in the world right now and we have been dealing with it wave after wave after wave.

-Pandemic

-Election division

-War.

There are so many of these oppressive wars going on right now, not just in Ukraine, they just aren’t as televised. It is all over the world. It feels like we should bury our heads in the sand and give up. What gives ME the right to wake up in my home, hug my husband and my son and drink my coffee in the morning and not them? I would be them if something like that happened here.

This is the first time I have experienced this as a parent. Seeing the civilians in harms way, sleeping in subways and evacuating to neighboring countries. It is terrifying and sad. Hubby and I spent all last Thursday together and we all snuggled together not doing much because we were so tired mentally.

Friday, it was back to the grindstone. Work, taking care of W and household tasks need done. Life goes on. But our awareness goes up. We do what we can for Ukraine for everyone. Don’t forget your neighbor. Don’t forget your friends. Check in with your loved ones.

When this happens, what do you do? How do you feel? Do you keep on going? You have to, you know? We can take a minute and feel what we need to feel but we have to move through the emotions to the other side.

These emotions are valid. Your emotions are valid. But all of the emotions of others are not yours to bear. They certainly are valid and they mean a lot but they are not yours. You are in charge of how your energy moves, where it flows. When you use all of your energy to feel for others, you won’t have anything left for your loved ones or yourself.

We have to take this all in stride. It is horrifying what is happening in the world right now. Taking it all in at once gets to be too much. Taking it in pieces is the best way, I think, to take it in. Some days I am all up in the news and others I go days without looking at it. It ebbs and flows much like everything else. Life is all about balance.

So, I encourage you to feel your feelings, empathize with the emotions. But don’t get lost in them. When it starts to make you feel something you don’t like, do something that helps you.

Take some time to ground yourself. Light a candle, meditate, workout, do yoga, go for a walk, snuggle and watch a movie with your family, make a delicious meal, bake something your grandma used to bake, go for a hike, talk to your friends, your coach, your therapist. Do something to counteract the news and empathy you are dealing with.

If you are a new mama or any mama, I invite you to join my Facebook group which can be found on the home page of my website. We are a safe space to feel what you need to feel and help each other through these nightmarish times we are going through right now.

I am with you and I love you,

-Valerie

Published by Empowered Mama Coach

Hi, I'm Valerie! I am a Postpartum Empowerment Coach here to help guide you through the new journey of motherhood! Here I will share what I have learned, give tips on how to be more present in life and show you that you can stop sleepwalking through your life and start living it!

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