Let’s look at these two words for a minute.
Feeling: an emotional state or reaction.
Mood: a temporary state of mind or feeling.
I had a conversation last week about how we do things with our moods vs how we feel. An easy example is eating. How often do we hear “What are you in the mood for?” A mood is a fleeting thing, unlike a feeling. We walk through our lives letting our moods drive our actions.
But we don’t take two minutes to feel our feelings, which are more deep than our moods are and more deeply rooted. Moods come and go throughout the day, the week, the month. Hell, the hour even! Our feelings are part of who we are at the time.
In my opinion, your feelings towards things are more core in yourself than your moods. Your moods are based on outward influences and energy around you. Whereas what you feel is what you feel in your soul and in your gut. Someone can feel fine in one situation and you feel completely different about it. Moods are just how a certain situation hits you and if it hits you the wrong way per se then you will have a negative experience. If it hits you the right way, you will have a positive one.
So the next time you are feeling high or low, ask yourself, is this a feeling or a mood? What is the difference to you personally? Do you agree or disagree with my opinion?
I hope you move forward from reading this thinking about how you move through your world. Is it through your mood or your feelings? Do you take the time to feel your feelings even when they are uncomfortable?
It has been such a learning curve for me the past few years understanding how to feel feelings and not use them as moods to lash out at loved ones. I have learned that you can forgive but you don’t have to forget. You can cut off emotional ties and still interact like adults with those people. Their opinions of you don’t matter if you let go of their expectations. And usually those expectations are unachievable anyway so why waste your time and energy? (haha)
Learning to sit in the uncomfortable feelings has been the hardest thing to learn. Knowing that you can sit there and feel it for longer than a second is okay. It may not be great, but it is a feeling that needs to be felt. And it’s okay. It’s okay to not like it and it’s okay if your first instinct is to push it away.
Ever since this conversation I have been pondering how moods rule our lives. Today was a long day and I was cranky a lot of the day. But I put my bad mood aside and focused on things I needed to get done. It wasn’t a perfect day in the least and I wasn’t perfect at pushing away my moods but I did my best. And that’s all you can do everyday, your best.
Since it has been on my mind, I thought I would toss it to you. You can let me know what you think via Instagram, Facebook, or filling out the form on this website!