Pl. Noun: a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else.

What does the word connections bring up for you? For me in my mind it looks like an intercepting web that goes out from me to another person and another person and so on. When a line is broken, it can stay broken, or it could be stitched back up.

How many of you struggle with your relationships in your immediate family? Mom, dad, sister, brother, cousins? It’s been touch and go with my family over the years. My dad especially. My mom always struggled with me because I was always “different” than everyone else.

My sister and I had a rocky relationship too. I am a very blunt person and that can hurt feelings, especially when you are 20 and don’t know how to speak to people! I am sensitive but also can have a hard time processing what others go through. I am so happy that I have a much better relationship with my sister now. In fact we just got done video chatting!

But what about the connection you have to yourself? Does that connection serve you? I am getting into a piece of my life where I am trying to do things with more intention and ritual. That is a very difficult thing for me to do. I usually do things on a whim and doing anything with intention is the opposite of that.

For example, when W was 7 weeks old, I drove him to Virginia to meet his grandma, by myself! I cannot believe I did that all by myself, but I did! I am so happy that he got to meet her but damn if that wasn’t the most miserable trip ever! That’s doing something on a whim!

When I do things intentionally though, that’s where the magic happens. I commit to eating more nutritious foods and working out, I lose weight and I feel more myself. I commit to journaling every day and the pressure is off and I am enjoying myself.

I think I just learned a lesson by writing this post. I do LOVE embracing my Sagittarius self like, to the MAX! But there’s something to be said about slowing down, embracing where you are and doing things with intention. That’s where the real connection to self is. The connection you get from traveling and flying by the seat of your pants is with things outside of yourself. When you take an intentional minute to journal, smudge some sage and set up a sacred space for yourself, that’s when the real connection to self shines through.

Both connections are valid. Both connections are necessary.

In this pandemic age, in 2022, we are beginning to realize that we as ourselves are what we need to connect more with. I am beyond thankful for last year leading me right here, to this moment, sharing this with you.

This is why I write. To share, to understand. I thank you. And I love you.


Published by Empowered Mama Coach

Hi, I'm Valerie! I am a Postpartum Empowerment Coach here to help guide you through the new journey of motherhood! Here I will share what I have learned, give tips on how to be more present in life and show you that you can stop sleepwalking through your life and start living it!

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