Who is your “person”? Is it your sibling? Your cousin or best friend? Your parent? Your spouse or significant other? Mine is my husband. He is the one constant person in my life. I have some great friends but he cares for me on a different level.
We have been together since 2007 and married since 2011 (so celebrating our 10 year anniversary this year!). He’s been with me through two cats, multiple job changes, two college degrees, one baby, over a year of infertility, one miscarriage, friend fallouts, family disagreements, two moves and lots of road trips. There have been highs and lows and he’s been by my side through all of them.
He’s always accepted me for who I am. I am spontaneous and love surprises and traveling. I have been told I live in fantasy land, that I need to grow up and I need to conform to be like others. I’m not sure there has been a time in my adult life when I felt like a traditional “adult”. I feel like my peers don’t take me seriously and maybe that’s why I became so passionate about working with children.
With him he’s grown to know me and loves me even more with the flaws I some with. He is person who is himself always. I have changed a lot in our time together in good ways. And if I was the one to change myself to his 100% me 100% of the time then I am a better person for it and I have him to thank.
When we struggled to get pregnant, he was the one who was there, wiping my tears and holding me close.
When my family and I had fights and didn’t talk, he was the one who helped me process my feelings about it.
When friends decide not to be friends anymore, he was the one there to do something fun with.
When we lived in Virginia we were on our own, with the exception of the family I worked for. It is a lonely feeling at times but it made our relationship stronger. We had to rely on each other for everything for six years. It is when we get distracted from this fundamental part of our past that we start to have problems.
We are so lucky to live where we do now because we can easily get to town or the park to meet people. The babe and I do Mommy and Me dance at our Creative Arts Guild and that is one way to get connected to others. Unfortunately with 2020 being the year it was, we didn’t get to meet anyone. But I am so excited for what 2021 has in store for us!
My husband and I have had serious problems in our marriage and just like all people, we don’t get along 100% of the time. We disagree and have arguments. But we work through it. We talk like adults. We let each other speak and we each hear the other out. The only way to get through the rough times is to work together. We are partners, we love each other and we don’t want to fight. We are best friends. We have been each other’s best friend since we were 18 and 19. We are in this amazing life together.
Even now we have each other’s backs. We will always be there for each other. We will show our son this behavior. We will always be there unconditionally for each other. We will always be there. It will always be you and me. It will always be the three of us now. The three of us together, an open ear, a calm discussion, an unconditional love.