Who We Are

Who are YOU?

That is a tough question, isn’t it? Or maybe it isn’t.

I know for me it has always been a tough question. When I was growing up I didn’t know who I was deep down in my soul. When I was a teenager I feel like dealing with depression and anxiety made it even harder to know who I was. When we are that age we are so impressionable so it’s hard to know what was you and what was others. In my 20s I also was finding who I was. I felt lost most of that decade sadly. The beginning of my 30s has been rough too. But now at 32 I am getting to the core of myself.

I have peeled back the layers of myself and found what I want, what I need and what I deserve. It has been a long hard road this year to finding that person.

I have realized that what I value to my core is love. I always knew that love was a big part of who I am but now I know it is who I am to the very core. It is hard because love is so fragile and easily used against you. It has been used this way in my life but now I have found a whole new love for both my husband and my son.

In those first hard days and weeks of having W, I kept crying and saying to my husband, “He was so much easier to take care of when he was inside, I wish I could just have him back there for a little bit”. But of course, we cannot go back in time. It got easier once we hit our groove and routine even though it was that much harder with the baby.

I realized that W was a piece of my heart living outside of my body the minute he was born. It has taken almost 2.5 years later for me to really understand that my husband is also a piece of my heart that walks around. When you are faced with the tough, real, raw situations and feelings of a real committed relationship, that’s when that moment hits.

The moment you say to yourself, I can’t live without this person in my life. They are forever there.

So, who are you? If you don’t know, who do you strive to be like? How can you make moves to be more or less like someone? How do you do make moves to be your own person?

It could be moving out of your home state or home town. It could be traveling or meeting new people, getting immersed in new cultures and experiences. It could look like therapy or a coach to ask the hard questions and hold you accountable. It could be serving others. It could be making space for yourself every week to focus on what you want.

Any way you do it, do it for you and no one else. Find the person you are meant to be. The world needs you.


Published by Empowered Mama Coach

Hi, I'm Valerie! I am a Postpartum Empowerment Coach here to help guide you through the new journey of motherhood! Here I will share what I have learned, give tips on how to be more present in life and show you that you can stop sleepwalking through your life and start living it!

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