Following my “crispy” post the other day, I wanted to talk a little bit more in depth about this topic. Regular life is hard enough without the added stress of covid so when it starts to pile on you it can be even worse, especially last year.
When regular life starts piling on you and it feels like it’s all on your shoulders it is HARD! When I was working full time, I would come home and immediately be on baby duty. I would watch him while hubby made dinner (yes, it’s awesome he cooks!!). Then after dinner he would go to work and I would do bed and bath solo. I would have to do whatever cleaning that was left over from the day. It made for a very long day when I was teaching. I was up at 5:45 or 6 in the morning, teach from 8-3 then come home and be mama and housekeeper.
Needless to say it was rough and that was before covid! Once covid shut down my new job (one where I have to go into homes to help kids) it was a hard adjustment. At first I tried to keep my work load up by doing my visits virtually but that didn’t last very long. I went from working full time to being a full time mom and home maker. It was all I ever wanted since becoming a mom, but it was also very overwhelming, especially with all the chaos in the world. I wasn’t sure how to make the adjustment, it was honestly very difficult for me. Finding my new place within the family took most of 2020 for me to figure out. I spent most of the year very depressed. I’m sure a lot of people went through tough times as well last year.
Honestly, it bled into this year too. It is so hard for me to get out of that circular way of thinking, obsessing over the same thing until it drags me down into the funk. I went to my doctor last month and finally admitted my level of depression. I broke down when filling out the depression questionnaire they give you. That’s not normal. I got on anti anxiety/depression meds that day. That was something I never thought I’d say or write! But since I started them I’ve felt so much better mentally. I think that if you are suffering from post partum depression or anxiety talk to your doctor to see if medication is the right path for you. I cannot recommend it for everyone but it can certainly help in some circumstances. In my case it has helped.
That being said, even though I am feeling better mentally, I have been dragging. So a few things I do to combat the funk or “crispiness” if you will, is number one, ask hubby for help. That’s your first line of defense. If your partner can take a little of the load off you that helps a lot. Doing the dishes, sweeping the floor, letting me sleep in are a few ways that he helps me. Sometimes when babe is in bed hubby will get a bath ready for me. I tend to make my baths super hot and it’s just nice to have him get the bath ready for me.
Getting out of the house helps a lot too. Seeing or talking to a close friend helps so much. Going to a friend’s house and watching a movie, having a drink or eating chocolate and just not being mom for a little while helps a lot. Curling up with a good book by yourself is a nice way to let go of the day. Watching a movie with (or without) hubby or a favorite show.
Also moving your body is a great way to relieve some of the anxiety brought on from the day. I have dance parties in the kitchen or living room all the time with babe. It’s so much fun to dance and groove with him! Doing yoga and focusing your energy on the parts of your body that need it is great too. And if you have enough patience and you can quiet your mind long enough meditation is a fantastic way to help clear your mind of everyday things.
I hope that whatever way you use, use one that works especially for you! And if you don’t like one, try another one! There’s no right answer to help anxiety and depression. The right one is the one that works for you.