Being Present

The past few days have been amazing for me in the sense that it has not been difficult for me to stay in the present and I am so happy about that!

I believe the reason for that is that I had lots of quality family time, friend time and time to create. Yesterday was hubby’s birthday so we went on a birthday hike and being out on the mountain was so much fun. Such a great time yesterday! Today the high is still going and it has been a simple day.

It’s so easy to be in the present but sometimes it feels so hard! I feel especially triggered by social media sometimes so I always feel just a little more rejuvenated when I take some time off of it. I have not bee doing too much for myself lately but it is getting cooler here so I need to start taking more baths, I love a nice hot bath!

I find that when I get overwhelmed by things I read or hear, I just have to take a breathe and focus my energy on other things. It is difficult to do when you’re busy, but even just taking two minutes to focus on your breathing can help your brain clear the fog. The unfortunate part about getting hit with those feelings that drag you out of your present situation is that it happens anytime and anywhere.

It has happened to me in a store where something reminds me of a happy time in my life and I get pulled into the feeling of how I haven’t had a time like that in forever. Well, it hasn’t been forever, for one. For two, focus on the good. We don’t have to feel dragged down by the memory, just alter how you remember it. Focus on the fun and not the fact that it was so long ago. I mean, it happened to me yesterday on the drive up to the mountain. But once I put a positive light on what we were doing, it helped me get out of the negative space.

I have been feeling so happy that it is now November but November is also bittersweet for me. Which is okay. I am allowed to feel sad about some things, I just can’t let them take me down the path of depression. I have been decluttering my life of things that feel like they do that to me. When you get rid of the extra baggage that triggers that feeling, then you don’t have to worry about fighting the feeling off so much.

I have been struggling with thoughts about my friend who unfriended me this year. Her favorite month is November. Her wedding anniversary is in November. Her favorite holiday is Thanksgiving. And the last time I had a great talk with her was my birthday which is next month. So of course my anxiety is anticipating that day to be bittersweet as well. I gave away some things she gifted me years ago last week. I didn’t like opening my closet and seeing the cardigans anymore. I have a mug I need to give away that she gifted me. Every time I open the door to grab a mug I see it. I try not to, but I know it’s there.

So, I know I will find little things that she gave me here or there because we were friends for so long. But I can do something to actively help my brain get out of those triggering situations. Find the thing you CAN do to help your mind stay present. If you can give it away, give it away. If you just can’t yet, hide it away for now. That’s what I did with the mug. It helped but I still know it’s there. So if you need a mug, hit me up!

I hope this helped someone. It can feel like an endless cycle of crap, but it will get better. The pain is there, but it is less. The memories are there but they don’t drag you down. Focusing on what you have in front of you always helps. Focusing on the future and looking forward to things helps. You can get through it. You can do it! I know you can.

-Valerie

Published by Empowered Mama Coach

Hi, I'm Valerie! I am a Postpartum Empowerment Coach here to help guide you through the new journey of motherhood! Here I will share what I have learned, give tips on how to be more present in life and show you that you can stop sleepwalking through your life and start living it!

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